How To Say I Love You

By Francis Githinji

As you might have noticed, there are some people who find it very hard to say "i love you". Most of these people are keen to say it when they mean it. Way back when i began dating my now long-term lover, he would leave a message on the voice mail which would always end with "have a nice day." He would murmur words that suggested that he wanted to say the three little words but he would stop. He was subconsciously dying to say the words but for some reason he could not utter them even after six months of dating exclusively. I found this behavior disturbing since it was outside my dating norm.

The last lover i had before him had said the words after only three and half weeks of dating. He would say "i love you" after every second. I would say "we need to prepare lunch" and he would respond "i love you". Despite his frequent declarations, my ex-boyfriend did not communicate love through his Behavior. His words became void and i had to leave him. Since that experience i learnt that the most important thing about the words "i love you" is that the actions ought to be in sync with the three little words. Otherwise they become null and void with time. My current boyfriend expresses his love through every single action. I would write a novel about his loving and caring acts but despite all these "i love you" still remained a tongue twister to him for a long time but when he finally said it had so much meaning to me.

My advice is once you start dating someone new do not be in a hurry to say "i love you" because you can't take the words back. Say them when you mean them. It is also good to recognize that some people take longer than others to blurt out the words. Generally men take longer to get ready for romantic relationships the same way women take much time to get ready for a party. My tip is that, after you have finally confessed your love for your lover, continue to share out the habits and the traits that you love. If you only focus on this generic phrase, you will certainly squeeze out all the flavor in it.

May be you are too eager to say "i love you" but unfortunately you cannot hear the same from your partner. I want to assure you that it is not because of lack of love but it might be out of fear. The wisest thing to do is to talk to your partner about what these words means to him/her. It is a golden chance to talk about your long-term desires, your fears and your personal beliefs. Another tip concerning these words is, do not say them at a time when your emotions are so intense. If you say them during sex, it could be a temporary wave of passion. During a fight do not dare say the words since you will be using them to gain control. Wait for a neutral setting to feel the impact words.

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